This whole exercise is making me realize that I have a choice in how things pan out through the way I CHOOSE to deal with my emotions.
I'm going to give you something else to think about, since you now seem to have a grasp on 'how you choose to deal with your emotions.'
Let's consider your standard cycle with Mrs. GGB. You want to have sex (just like you want to eat when you are hungry.) You initiate. She rejects. Nothing wrong, per se, with any of that.
GGB Standard Response to a choice Mrs. GGB freely made (well... let's keep it simple and assume this for now): To get pouty.
Okay. We both know you don't like feeling pouty. But, habitually, if you pouted long and loud enough, Mrs. GGB would cave and give you pity sex.
Do you see where this ISN'T about sex AT ALL... but you unconsciously seeking methods/taking actions that will STOP those icky pouty feelings? So it's really more about acting and responding to your OWN feelings... and sex is just the fall guy?
Now that you have chosen to act in a different way... you like how you feel this way better than when you were pouty... maybe not quite where you want to be yet, you're still considering and tinkering and experimenting... you'd still like to have sex...
But none of those things are now connected. They are ALL independent of one another.
