Cobra, I think you missed the point. This whole thing isn't about doing things to control your spouse. It is recognizing that you have options to how you react to your own emotions and encouraging yourself to react in such a way that you are true to yourself rather than in a way that you think will get your spouse to react the way you want her to. The first is getting ahold of yourself. The second is just being controlling, which will get you nowhere fast.
