The Light Your Fire workbook words it like this, "It sounds like you are saying you want to ....... I understand why. It would be my preference if we could ....... but I stand behing your decision. I have faith that you know what 's best for us." She says that will work and to try it first. if it doesn't then give a stronger I message. I know it sounds passive aggressive, believe me I was raised by a single mom who was pretty gansta! But it makes me feel calm saying this mantra. I actually used it when my H confirmed having an affair!
"It sounds like you are saying you want to see other people even though we are still married. I understand you think I let you go even though you know I want you to come home to your family and me. I would prefer if you wait until we are divorced to see other people because we have children and parents to protect. I have faith you know what is best for our family." Can you believe it? But I kept my integrity. It was better than yelling and screaming like a green eyed monster.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
