I read the first chapter. I plan on getting it this Friday and reading it. first, i'm finishing up my Co-dependent No More book! It's really helping.
I know I need to focus on me and my health and my sanity I had some kind of breakthrough yesterday with the realization of "emotional unavailability..." that's just who he has become. It sucks, it's not easy, but I'm going to have to deal with it.
Regarding his job, he's going to do what he's going to do. It's not like he'll be any more emotionally here than he already is. I gave him my opinion, but told him that if we were going to be together, then I would have to accept it if that's what he was going to do. That's as supportive as I can be without being dishonest with him or myself. I still don't think it's right. I don't think any kind of job that takes a person away from their family is good for a family, no matter what kind of money it brings in. I believe in closeness and time together... that's probably a reflection of having none of that growing up
So, with that, this is the best thing right now. Hopefully, he comes to a realization that family is more important and work through his issues and then we can work through ours. If it doesn't happen, then, in the long run, the kids and I will be happier this way.
It's just shock and denial and grief right now... but that too will pass.
I had some kind of breakthrough yesterday with the realization of "emotional unavailability..." that's just who he has become. It sucks, it's not easy, but I'm going to have to deal with it. 
