Maybe you chased her back for a minute, but you also stood up for yourself, which seems to be a 180 for you recently. She also seems to finally be understanding what she's doing to your son. She's seeing it and that hurts. She feels guilty. Let her feel the pain. She's not done with you, and is feeling her way back, I think.
You and I are both in the same boat with the talking. My W hasn't chased me at all, so I don't know how I would handle that if I were to ever get the chance. Odds are I'll spaz a bit. No worries, keep in mind that one the things that DR mentions repeatedly is that it's OK to make a mistake, it's not going to kill your chance at making this work.
Something I read on someone elses thread might work for you. Put a rubber band around your wrist. Everytime you start to say something, pop the rubber band (also worked to prevent suicide on a MASH episode).
Breaking my heart to read about your son. My oldest is starting to show signs of anger. She's always had a bit of a temper, so it's hard to tell if she's just being her or if it's more than that. Tough for everyone. It'll get better, though.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
