Thanks for the wise advice. It is so easy to want to grab onto something that just does not exist. It is amazing when you are not sitting in the middle of a sitch how you can see things like this and there potential outcomes. Thanks again....
TAL, You are right it does seem like she is truly hurting but at the same time not doing anything to try and restore our family. The games that you mentioned that she might be playing I think are really being played by her L. It seems to me that her L is trying to bypass my L and work directly with me through my W. I cannot blame him for not wanting to work with my L, but there is a reason why I hired who I did.
It still amazes me that an infatuation can take control of someone's life like this. This is how we all find ourselves here on these boards.
Yoyo, Thanks for the kind words. I actually have no idea if she is still involved with OM at this time. My guess is Yes, but I really do not know.
How is the new school year going for you?
Andy, Thanks for the encouragement to stay the course. Interesting that you are seeing changes in your W's behavior now that D is a reality. I cannot say that I see the same in my W. Who knows maybe someday.
Cades, You are right that my W is looking for something to fix her life. Unfortunately, she is looking for a quick fix that is just an illusion. She is probably going to have to hit rock bottom before she starts looking at herself for her own happiness. It sucks that this all affects my little girls. I do believe you are right that all my W needs to be happy is right in front of her and it is not the broken family that she is creating.
Last night I had an interesting conversation with D5 while putting her to bed. She does not seem to be as thrilled with moving out as my W thinks. I do not want my D to feel that she has to make both parents happy, because I hear that is what happens at her age in sitch like this. I want her to be able to freely tell me how she feels and what is concerning her. So last night she was really upset that the four of us are never together and I think she now realizes this is going to continue while she is at moms new place. I just kept telling her that I loved her and that she always has a place to stay with me. I really only tried to assure her that I would always be there for her and that I would always love her. She then fell asleep on my chest.
I have no idea if she has these types of conversations with my W. If she did you would thin that it would stop my W in her tracks. I hate that my girls have to go through this mess because of their mommy's selfishness.
Thanks again everyone for your kind words and encouragement.
