Dang I've got a MAJOR case of dontgiveashiatitis. Not sure what is causing it, but there are two possible reasons. (1) it is my way of pulling out of the Pit, kinda of a transition period in which my trying to bonk myself out of the Pit bleeds into other areas (2) I'm getting REALLY pissed off at my FIL. We are in the process of building a sun room addition to our house, and FIL has been helping the carpenter A LOT. I am grateful for it for sure, and wish I could help more, but I have been busy. There is a reason I got a 6.5% salary raise last year and stand to make a similar one this year. There is a reason I had $30K in extra salary from external grant work and such. And that money is a big part of where our home remodeling is coming from, in addition to being necessary b/c a professor's salary at a small college is not enough to support 3 kids easily. I'm getting really tired of the guilt trips and demands he is laying on me. Its like he has no respect for the work I do, which would not be surprising given that he comes from a "sweat of the brow" farming type background. He will ask me to do something, and I will tell him I will get to it as soon as possible (the latest thing is I need to stain and finish some beadboard for the celing of the sunroom). Well him and the carpenter will get to a point where they need something (the beadboard in this case) and he will start pestering me to come home early for work, instead of THEM taking a day or so off (which the carpenter probably wouldn't mind, as he is an older fellow and suffering from prostate cancer) to give me time to find a block of time to get home. Any of you who have done staining and finishing know that it is not practical to do it at night, as you get bugs stuck in the stain/finish, or I would do it at night.
I know, I'm just biatching big time. But I'm about to stop being Mr. Nice Guy and let him have it. I have endured enough lack of respect about who I am and what I do from both MIL and FIL. The problem is that FIL was laid off about 3 months ago and hasn't found a new job yet, so I've been trying to be sensitive about not saying "I have a job to do" as that could be taken the wrong way. Ugh. I'm still such a friggin adolescent.
/rant{over}
MJ and DIY, I'll respond to your posts in detail soon. You both gave me some really good comments though.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
