I'm back from holiday (and now depressed)

[MaxP]

Hummm, internet gremlins just ate my reply. Let's try again.

Hi mkultra,

I really enjoy traveling so can't wait for my next trip. Time will be the issue for me though, since I get even less holiday allowance in my new job.

I have some questions about being separated...

Since I have been back I have been feeling really down about the separation. I miss my W but feel unable to interpret what she thinks of me. We have had little contact since she went, most of it has been about practical topics. From what I know / feel, she seems intent on building up her social circle and social life to resemble what it used to be like before she met me (i.e. university crowd, lots of single people - including men she used to be good friends with). It feels to me like I no longer exist in her world, almost as though I and our past have been completely written out of it. This makes me feel a little angry and very confused. In response, I tend to withdraw from her even more and then have even less of an idea what is going on. So, many questions:

Is there any way I can gauge how she feels about me? How she even views me in all of this?
Is this too dangerous / too soon? (separated 7 weeks, seen each other twice, quite a few texts)
Can we discuss these things without setting us back?
Is there a danger in all of this that neither of us know what to do, so we end up drifting even further apart?
What strategy could be used to start a shift towards us having more high-quality contact?
How do I stop being paranoid?

I should settle down fairly soon again, but I am surprised to have all the sediment disturbed.

One thing I've felt throughout this process is that it feels like things don't add up. I think we are right for each other, but she is behaving as if she doesn't care about me at all.

Rant over.

Max