...'this exercise of 'self' is the one of the most effective ways to keep yourself OUT of that comfy cozy C.U. Chair...
I can see this working very well by focusing so much attention on yourself that the one-sidedness of doing everything for me, me, me becomes obvious. I would think this means you have a sense of empathy for how this one-sidedness is making others feel, and that you have a sense of guilt over that.
But what if the other person does not have that sense of empathy or guilt, or if that person has such strongly tinted glasses that s/he thinks being in the C.U. chair actually evens things out and that chair is where they rightly should be?
Bet you can guess who I have in mind, and I'm wondering if I were to actively PUT my wife in the C.U. chair and go out of my way to make her the center of everything (by acknowledging all her wants, wishes, needs, etc.), how would she react and would some of my complaints become more apparent to her? The problem with my wife is that her wants, wishes and needs are better met by completely leaving her alone, but I suppose there could be a way to highlight that "need" as well, though I'm not sure what it would be.
