The point both of you might be missing is you are in a vulnerable place...and should you go out just as "friends"...well that is how most EA start...and then they leas into PA...it is very easy to get caught up in the feel good feelings....just look at your S's...they didn't just decide one day to go out and have an A...
I stand by what I said too...if you think that making your W jealous is a way to get her attention...you might just get the wrong kind of attention...
I know it is hard to wait this out...I know because I waited...I wasn't sitting around waiting for him to call...he didn't give me some of the hopeful signs that you have...but I kept doing the DB'ing that I could...
Your wife is 42...if it is MLC ( I strongly suspect it is) then what you are proposing is going to lead to a disaster...either you will force her home too soon...or she will throw her hands up and concede that she has lost you...
I don't know what else to say to you right now...just that if you want to play with fire...expect to get burned...
