Light on the horizon

[Phoenix_spark]

Well it looks like most everyone is not in the posting mood. I almost just walk up to W today and planted one on her just for the H of it. I'm getting tired of not being able to be affectionate with her, not being able to feel love when I feel it or want it. I'm generally a playful affectionate guy, so this no fly zone thing just sucks.

Oh well, just the thought brought a smile to my face. Yep, I'm a bit of a trouble maker.

Bump.

[Aud31]

I think I am missing some info here Phoenix--why can't you be affectionate with your W? Are you back to square one in your DBing?

[WCW]

Yeah, why can't you be playful and affectionate? Well, at least playful? Works in my sitch sometimes, you just gotta catch it right. Maybe we should enroll in clown school.

[BeingMe]

Yeah, what Aud and WCW says! Maybe, just take her hand and kiss it ze French way?

[cat03]

hey toots, where are you?

[Phoenix_spark]

Have increase casual contact over the last few weeks, but last night hopped into bed and just planted a quick one on her, just like in the old days. Some days I have the "what the heck attitude", just like I use to. W has not been over responsive, but she isn't pulling away or back pedaling emotionally. So, am I heading in the right direction? I guess time will tell. If I'm going down, I'm going down in flames.

[WCW]

hopped into bed and just planted a quick one on her

A quick one? you mean quick kiss or quickie? sorry, overactive imagination with inactive sex life and I ...um...never mind.

If she isn't pulling away then a baby step can be a sideways move too right? and then forward.
Ha! going down in flames! Good advice, I've been wondering about my next move.

[Phoenix_spark]

Yep, I did mean on. That will have to do for now. Don't worry about the vivid imagination, I've learned to enjoy that for now. Someday I hope I can sit back with W and laugh about all this. I might have to only admit to the PG version, we're not the drinking type. However, there have been times when I have thought about using that approach to really find out what was going on. But since they don't recommend it in the book, I've avoided that.

As far as the quick contact, I think I'll throw a few of those in every so often and see how things progress. I guess I decided I wasn't waiting around forever, I was either going to step up the pace or go down in flames. This whole R started with me planting one on her, which woke her up and made her evaluate what she thought of me. So I guess I'm at square one again. Yes that's square one, not ground zero.

[Aud31]

Oooh, such a positive outlook Phoenix: square one vs. ground zero.

This process is all about experimenting and evaluating, and I think you've actually got a plan going on here.

I like to imagine that someday, in a place far, far away, we'll get to meet all our DBing brothers and sisters and for sure have a GREAT BIG LAUGH. And maybe a cry. But definitely a happy reunion with lots of love and gratitude.

[BeingMe]

Yeah, we have to meet one day, somewhere, in the great beyond! We have all been through so much together, haven't we?! Hopefully, our spouses will be able to laugh along with us, and all things will be made clear to us ... the why's, the how's, the when's, and so forth. Maybe, we'll find that it was necessary for our growth as spiritual beings, to go through this pain. There has to be something positive that comes out of it, sureley!!!!! I insist!!!

Like a true phoenix, you are willing to go down in flames, and then (as the story goes) be reborn from those flames. One has to take risks, and not let fear be the thing guiding our actions (at least, not all the time). I admire you greatly, Phoenix! I think you are onto something here. It will be interesting to see how it plays out.