Of course I consider my role - again it takes 2, right?, and I have done different things, well differently outside of the bedroom for years and the frequency doesn't really change.
Boy... you are determined to dodge my question. Let me try again.
Yes. It takes 2. And I want to know about your half of the 2. I'm not asking about him and what he is or isn't doing to contribute to the problem. I am asking YOU what you are DOING to contribute to the ongoing problem of your SSM. I'm not asking you what you are trying to do to get what you want...
"It's my fault because I decided to marry him," is a piss poor cop-out, and it doesn't fall under 'what I'm doing to contribute to the problem,'... unless you married him knowing that he had a very low sex drive but expected that he would meet or exceed your own sex drive once you got married.
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Again - give me tangible, executable advice. ex. blow kisses 5 times when he leaves for work each day. Communicate 1-4 text messages (no more, no less) when he is away for a duration of 6 or more hours. (I'm making this s&*t up - but kwim?)
Yeah, I know what you want, but it doesn't work that way. That statement is absent of empathy, respect and regard for him... which may be part of the problem... ya think? ;-)
