I think the bigger lesson here was to feel the emotion but not succumb to the usual (seemingly easy because it is habit) action. Hmm, tough to do, tough to do.
Exactly!!! And yes, it is tough to do (as it is to change any habit). That's why you have to keep as much 'conscious' as you can.
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Anyway, in the past that got me mopey, which she eventually responds to with duty sex. I've managed this time around to not get that way, but the result is I've withdrawn, I guess to protect myself.
You need to figure that out... if you are withdrawing on purpose, because it is an action you have consciously chosen (in support of Who You Are, and your personal mission statement), that's fine.
If you are guessing you have taken an action... maybe to protect yourself... that is still unconscious behavior.
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Anyway, withdrawing somewhat from the R is helping me focus on myself and things I like to do, and doing them so it isn't all bad I suppose.
Sounds more purposeful that way, doesn't it? But lose all that wishy-washy stuff, and really OWN it:
Withdrawing so that I am not so emotionally dependent on my M is helping my current objective of exploring my inner self and the things I like to do.
That's all about you, isn't it? Leaves the W completely out of it... and lo and behold, you are focusing on YOU.
