oh, and I am not a hapless victim. I fully subscribe to the notion that everyone is ultimately responsible for their lives. I do not blame him for my sexless (let me rephrase that - sex deprived) marriage, I blame myself for marrying him... I made and make choices to which others respond. Again - give me tangible, executable advice. ex. blow kisses 5 times when he leaves for work each day. Communicate 1-4 text messages (no more, no less) when he is away for a duration of 6 or more hours. (I'm making this s&*t up - but kwim?)

thanks!

36 y/o HD in committed monogomous relationship for 15 years (at least on my end, assumed on his as well)
2 children, 6.5 dd & 5 ds