How long have you been Going Dark? Have you read about Plan B on Marriage Builders? I am trying to implement that. I do not know if anything backfires, but I am striving to lead a more authentic life. DBing is a great experience for me, but I also want to be alive and honest. I hate holding back so much of my true feelings. I am happier detaching and I realize how I live my life no longer affects my H in any way. My D's TH basically said I no longer exist to my H by the way he treats me. This may seem harsh but it is actually liberating. I can live my life as I see best, not for him. Your H noticed the changes in you and made a remark that it should be for you. That is actually belittling coming from someone who you shared eternal vows with and he does not even realize it. My H said it did not matter how much weight I lost or how much I cooked and clean he would never come back to this house. Well, at least he noticed I lost weight and cleaned out the garage!
Last edited by mkultra; 08/27/0711:19 PM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
