Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

[loonyqt]

I wonder if you've given any consideration to what YOU are doing to contribute to the problem...???

The SSM book is my bible. I employ the HD strategies with gusto.

Of course I consider my role - again it takes 2, right?, and I have done different things, well differently outside of the bedroom for years and the frequency doesn't really change.

That's why I'm here!! I'm looking for specific behavioral strategies that I can employ. Give me the words, the actions - I want to know all I can do to help change the situation.

As outlined in the SSM book, a lot of the onus for change in the bedroom, from what I can tell - comes from the LD partner, regardless of whether it is medical or not. Last I checked, the brain is the biggest and most important organ involved in sexuality and when your husband thinks that sex is ok in 3x/month dosing... well, he needs to be convinced that way of thinking doesn't jive with his wife and a compromise needs to be made. Again, give me ammo to help make that happen!!

The other thing I did 10 days ago was email him this article - with the preface of "how you can still jetski, motocross, and weighlift, maybe even better at 50 than today":
http://www.forbes.com/2003/10/08/cz_af_1008health.html

and that "hit home" pretty good... his self-absorbed side really resonated with the sex as a component of optimal health message.

I need stuff like that - mag articles, statistics, etc. because he doesn't read books (a bit adhd - never officially diagnosed, but self-professed) to share, too.

thanks again!