1) Yes, she IS a piece of work. She is also very scared and has some post-trauma issues that she has never dealt with as a result of 2 major surgeries and recent bouts of epilepsy. Being understanding of what she has been going through and the way these things have affected her has been the only reason I have held on. The problem is that she is in complete denial of how it distorts her thinking and perception of life. I won't abandon her knowing that she is suffering underneath all of this. OM is an idiot and won't know what the he&! to do when her health issues come up.
2 & 3) The affair is just plain gross. This guy isn't worth the time to put newspapers under.
4) Have been GAL actively-getting back to God, walking, yoga, reading, new apt, new friends (some very friendly positive-minded folks)
5) No agreement and not a legal S. She just keeps telling me that she is "done", and that she is going to file. She walked out, refused contact for about a month as I tried to get her to talk about it, then came home to get her things a month later and basically abandoned our entire life, while she lets her family believe that I was abusive, which I think is just a projection of her own guilt for the A. She only communicates with me through email, which we all know is not very effective.
