So, are you saying I just need to somehow rise above my "primitive" physical desires and truly shrug off the agony I feel due to the diminished frequency and interim rejections? OK, I will employ "The Secret" and visualize myself as having fulfilled passionate marriage and try to behave accordingly. ;-)
So you really think that you are doing nothing to contribute to the problem... you are a hapless victim?
I don't know if you've read the SSM book, or any of the other 'sex' books talked about on here (like 'Passionate Marriage'), but... unless there is a specific medical problem inhibiting performance, lack of sex in a marriage is a symptom of other problems in the M... and not the problem, in and of itself (tho it usually feels that way).
I wonder if you've given any consideration to what YOU are doing to contribute to the problem...???
