My thoughts earlier today were perhaps too glib, but there's a serious question in there. I don't think either myself or Svejk want to DATE anyone, but rather go on a date with a person of the opposite sex for dinner/coffee or something (not thinking sex here). Nothing serious, just some companionship/friendship with a non-current friend female.
In my case, doing something like that wouldn't be with the intent of making my W jealous, but to make me feel better (and my date, I can chew with my mouth closed and hold up my end of a conversation reasonably well).
If part of detaching is letting the R with our current spouses go, is letting an opportunity to meet someone who might be interested in us go by without taking it holding ourselves back?
I'm pretty shy, so I know it'll take me a while longer to make this decision, but it's hard. On the one hand, I want to start living my life because, as far as i can tell, my W is ready to move on without me in her life. On the other hand, at the moment, I would give my M another chance were she to open the door.
Arrrrrggggggg. This sucks.
Lin, thanks for posting here. I've thought all of those questions your posed and it was great seeing them in black and white.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
