Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

[loonyqt]

So not only does he have power over your sex life, he also has power over your emotions. And I'll bet any amount of money, he doesn't WANT that power... but you keep throwing it at him. Which actually makes you the one who is controlling. Right now, he is so full of resentment, it's killing his drive.

So, are you saying I just need to somehow rise above my "primitive" physical desires and truly shrug off the agony I feel due to the diminished frequency and interim rejections? OK, I will employ "The Secret" and visualize myself as having fulfilled passionate marriage and try to behave accordingly. ;-)

He's also an avoider, and probably does darn near anything to keep from discussing this issue (just to keep the peace). <-- that IS his fault.

...you do have this right, at least.

You want something FROM him, and you are throwing a 'hissy' to get it. I understand your feelings, and they are valid... it's your methods I think are your biggest problem.

Ahhhhh, another disconnect here. I want something WITH him. And I don't throw a hissy to get it, usually. The hissy comes, generally, after 3 separate failed initiations (as in days, not actual overtures/seductions/etc.) And the hissy keeps being reinforced, because it usually gets him to "give" me sex, which I'll take. I keep waiting for those shared intimate sessions which he openly engages in sex with me, however.

A little happy anecdote - surprisingly, just after I posted here, we had sex 2 nights in a row. The first on a Friday, after a hissy, the 2nd which he initiated after he came home around 2am after being out playing foosball Sat. night compete with massive sloppy kisses (which I adore) AND a brief bout of down under tonguing (which I also adore). yippee! The only thing I can tell you about Sat. was that we were at a kiddie bday party where I was all over my husband like a fly on honey and telling everyone (ok, just a couple really close girlfriends) what a stud he was... normally, I don't do anything like this, because a) I'm not in having-just-been-laid happy mode when out and about with him and b) I don't try to embarass him b/c he is rather reserved about his sex life... but damn if it didn't work!