I believe Al Turtle was saying it made sense when you think about it from a conflict avoider standpoint. They are trying as hard as they can not to have any conflict and everything becomes a conflict - a question asked, a raise of an eyebrow at the wrong time. The needing to get away keeps building until finally you have to leave to get comfort.
He is suggesting that guilt and avoidance are really big in H and I need to break that down and show him I am working on my part in things. That is the only thing I can work on.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
