tho I disagree that this is not a sex issue. I am NOT trying to emasculate my husband nor do I want to pressure him.
But that is exactly what you are doing. I didn't say that you were doing it on purpose.
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Joy is not a feeling that comes easily when constantly rejected.
So not only does he have power over your sex life, he also has power over your emotions. And I'll bet any amount of money, he doesn't WANT that power... but you keep throwing it at him. Which actually makes you the one who is controlling. Right now, he is so full of resentment, it's killing his drive.
He's also an avoider, and probably does darn near anything to keep from discussing this issue (just to keep the peace). <-- that IS his fault.
If he doesn't want to have sex with you, it's HIS loss. But that is not the way you continue to present it to him. You want something FROM him, and you are throwing a 'hissy' to get it. I understand your feelings, and they are valid... it's your methods I think are your biggest problem.
I understand your feelings, and they are valid... it's your methods I think are your biggest problem.
