Pressure is a turn-off. No pressure lets things continue the way they are. You've got to shake things up without putting him on the spot.
OK. I buy this, but am uncertain on how to execute. I need tangible behavioral suggestions here, please...
Originally Posted By: NOPkins
I find it interesting that he covers his butt when walking away from you. Does he do this out of modesty, or does he feel that you are ogling him?
Truthfully, both.
Originally Posted By: NOPkins
What is the dynamic in your lovemaking (as infrequent as it is)? Does he lead, follow, share the lead? Would you say you are a bit over the top? Is it possible that he feels like he isn't meeting your standards during sex.? A false perception perhaps, but what do you think that he thinks about your encounters with him?
He leads. I am not over the top. It is very routine, but still satisfying, and I do not complain about it as is. I have mentioned I would like to do more, but will take the status-quo. He knows this (I think) :-)
36 y/o HD in committed monogomous relationship for 15 years (at least on my end, assumed on his as well) 2 children, 6.5 dd & 5 ds
