I'd like to, but friends don't do that to one another. Everyone else was invited but me, and simply because my W had a problem with it. That should never be the way these kinds of things are done when you have mutual friends. I don't want to be friends with someone who does this to me, when I wouldn't do it to them.
Heim & CVA,
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Sounds to me like she is just still totally confused.
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Finally, and actual thought, she most likely wouldn't be acting some of the way she's acting if she didn't feel at least a little confusion about what's going on. Be firm, but don't be an a$$
I agree it sounds something like her being confused, but she did outright deny my request to postpone the D and consider working things out in the future. Also, she has told our friends that she doesn't even like talking to me because she can't stand the sound of my voice (so sweet, eh?). I think she's more or less acting the way she is simply because I haven't jumped at the opportunity to sign the mediation agreement and D decree. She's mad because I haven't done what she wants me to do, and the sooner I do, the sooner she's GUARANTEED the money. That's kind of how I see it.
If she'd have been more civil and respectful to me -- and if I wouldn't have heard about he and OM anxiously waiting for the money and making plans regarding what they're going to do with it -- I might have followed through with it. Not now though. I've come to realize that I've totally been manipulated and used. I've been her doormat, and I'm not going to be anymore. I've already been devasted emotionally through this -- I will no longer allow myself to be devasted financially too. The more I've thought about it, the more I've come to realize that this money was given to me to support and provide for me and my family (and my W is NOT a part of my family anymore). She should've only been entitled to it while she was a part of my family. Since she has been the one to chose not to be such, she should have to deal with the legal and natural consequences of her actions.
Thanks for ranting with/for me, Heim -- I thoroughly enjoyed it!
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You're no longer under any obligation to do right by your W and OM (though that doesn't sound like it's going to well. Hooray for you!).
Yes -- a small victory in this emotional war! Hope you enjoyed it and that it gave you some hope, too! I think we all kind of celebrate these victories vicariously through one another.
I'm becoming a pretty good Lindy lead, so you'll be in good hands (and I'll be gentle ).
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