[/quote] Have you ever "unloaded" on her before? Or even close to it? Does she know how you feel about the situation? Have you been passive about this situation, and others, in the past?
I'm not telling you to "unload", but to just take some time to really look at what you've done in the past. What has worked, and what hasn't worked.
What would your 180 be? [quote]
My 180 would be to bring up the R talk in a healthy non-combative way.
My H wants to just brush everything under the rug. This is his way of fixing the R. The old me would just go along with it and not talk about what lead to the problem to be able to work on it. The new me however can't do that. I need to be able to talk about the EA to help me heal. I need to to some extent. not details, but if he knows what lead to it. So far he has said nothing. He does show me in differant ways though that he is trying. It is just not enough for me anymore.I think if this does not happen I may become a WAW myself because I will not live in a uncommunicative M any longer.
I am just waiting for a good time for R talk as H is in MLC,(although i think he is thru the tunnel) and i am making sure that he won't go back into the tunnel by confronting the sitch.
It's hard to GAL act as if and try to piece. Ime' an independent person but when you are spending more time together it is easy to fall back into the need thing. Does anyone know what im'e saying here.
jak
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
