I LOVE living alone

[forever21]

Thanks for clarifying, Ian. I think you may have just misunderstood the paragraph of mine that you'd highlighted. There was a lot going on there and I left out a lot of detail, so it's understandable.

I don't share this thinking....

...the growth from relationships and from the bad things that happen in them. You want to learn those lessons prior to your marriage and try and not have to once you make that lifelong commitment

I think that is unrealistic, but to each their own. I don't think it's any accident I was presented (or anyone is, for that matter) with the "lessons" I was, and that is one of the great things about relationships IMO.

What I am saying J is maybe you learned these lessons from your marriage so that your next R will be a healthy one.

Maybe... more will be revealed.

That may be why you are feeling so detached is you are realizing that your marriage was not fulfilling...

That definitely helped.

...and may have simply been you learning those final lessons.

I don't believe the "lessons" I have learned, and was referring to, are ones most people learn before they get M. It is simply growth, and that happens with the help of our Rs until we die... IMO.

Thinking about you, at your first day on the new job. Hope it's going fabulously.