I agree that your H is more jealous than he lets on. It's all part of the game--he has to make you believe that he is s-o-o secure, that he *KNOWS* you want only him.
(Just a thought--is it possible that one of these guy friends of yours has a motorcycle? That your H took your riding stuff to see if you would miss it, thinking that perhaps you would go riding with this guy??)
As for going out with the girls so he can go out with the guys, again he figures you won't get into any real trouble, and he can get his ego stroked by flirting with other women. That's if you're talking about the bar scene. But if he's talking about going bowling or camping with the guys, and that you should go shopping or to a movie with the girls, what would be the harm in that? (Of course he can go shopping with the guys and you can go bowling with the gals if you like--didn't want to be sexist.)
