why don't I listen to my own stories?

[Trixi]

Make no mistake, you DID hurt him, and he has been very honest about it being part of the reason why he did the whole dating thing himself.

Oh no! He didn't go out on dates because of what I did. Nope. He left to investigate greener pastures and that is what he was doing. He is just figuring out that maybe they aren't so green.

erm.. are you talking about relationship energey, or sex? maybe I shouldnt ask... heh. its the same thing either way, kinda.

Unfortunately sex.

Whether your get-togethers with male friends made a problem depends on how your H reacted to them. He apparently already knew about it, and perhaps he got a little jealous/insecure about your intentions. Not necessarily a bad thing to give him a little taste of his own medicine.

agreed

He wants to see me be more independent. Although, while we were at the location of our first date, he did specify that I should be going out with girlfriends more often. (I'm not much of a "go out and whoop it up with the girls" type.) I think he is thinking of he goes out with the guys, I go out with the girls. Honestly, I "get" that if you are single and dating someone; I just don't feel as comfortable if you are married. It might be a miscommunication thing. My vision is both being at separate bars flirting and being loud and then coming home to each other. Seems a bit like a recipe for disaster. Maybe I am not understanding what his 'vision' is.