why don't I listen to my own stories?

[Dom R]

He agreed that they weren't "dates".

Just becuase you both agree on something, doesnt make it good for your marriage, yah?

It is premature for me to try to put any restrictions on 'platonic' dates.

I think you are right there.

On the other hand, that doesnt stop you being able to apologise, does it? You could say, if you agree, that his going out with those other women, made you rethink what you've been doing, and you're not going to do that any more.
That's all you have to say. Dont even try to get him to agree to anything. Just announce your own intentions.
Best case, he might agree to do the same, although that's highly unlikely right now.
Worst case... it will make him happy, and will make him feel a little better over the hurt you have caused him in the past about it.
Make no mistake, you DID hurt him, and he has been very honest about it being part of the reason why he did the whole dating thing himself.

One thing that I just remembered about this weekend that does not bode well is that he would be "excited" and lose it, and get it back, lose it, get it.

erm.. are you talking about relationship energey, or sex? maybe I shouldnt ask... heh. its the same thing either way, kinda.
Seems like both sides of a troubled marriage undergo the "rollercoaster". This is just a more blatant symptom, i think.

I said it's not cheating to do it with your wife.

/cheer!

I'd say: Dont worry about it. BE HAPPY, that you had a great weekend.
LOSE EXPECTATIONS that things are going to go 100% rosy from now on. in fact, expect the opposite. I havent read of anyone that had a magically smooth path. seems like everyone has the back-and-forth waffling.

I'll say it again: Be happy; enjoy the positive memories, and look forward to a fun wednesday. PMI, and "act as if" it will go great. It probably will

(Hmm.. that may seem a little contradictory with the "lose expectations" mantra. eh... go with what works in a positive fashion for you.

I'm trying to keep up my own PMI momentum, after a fairly positive weekend. I dont have any expectations that the rest of the week is going to be peaches and cream (MMMM.. peaches and cream.. i ... oops... where was i?) anyways.. I'm enjoying the positive time I've had with my wife recently, and I'm trying to not mess up potential future positive time, by getting all wrapped up in negative dwelling. i hope you will be able to do the same