LRT backfire for anyone? More patience needed?

[Dr.mom]

Okay, I have been DB-ing for a few months now. Been separated for 6. For the past 8 weeks, after returning home from a some-what unsuccessful marital weekend retreat, I have employed the LRT tactic. Gone completely dark.

For reference, the retreat was great for me. Helped me see my WAH in a new light, I learned to detach. I learned this was not my problem and I could do nothing more. I said everything I wanted to say to him on that weekend. I was cool, I was collected. I radiated unconditional love. I was proud of myself.

It all bounced right off him.

So I went dark.

The 2 months previous, we had been "Dating" weekly and he was reluctantly coming to MC, although spending the entire time talking about getting a D. During these 2 months I have been db-ing like crazy. Getting a life, trying to "fix" me and improving my life acting "as if" and doing a 180.

Has anyone ever had this BACKFIRE?

WAH just sat back and said "Wow, you really impress me" and "I see these changes, and hope you are doing them for YOU, and not for me". He said my attitude and outlook on life are "inspirational" to him. In other words, I think he sees all this as me being fine with the impending divorce, that I'll bounce back and do great.

Phone calls from him ceased, emails sputtered out, to the occasional "I hope you are doing well, enjoying life and having adventures".

After going dark, I got even less contact. He showed up once to the house, unannounced, and poked around while I was gone. I thought maybe that was a glimmer of curiousity.

Nothing. Like he is happy I have "moved on".

What now? How do you backpedal out of the LRT?