Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Ok, good advice...I'm definitely not going to send the letter. Even though I still think it will give her something to think about, I will defer to those of you with experience.

On another subject... My wife and I are friends with a couple that are big gossips, and I know that anything I say to them will be passed on to my wife. For that reason I have been avoiding talking to them.

But maybe I could use them to my advantage. Due to my previous behavior my wife thinks I am sitting at home constantly thinking about her and that I will wait for her forever no matter what she does. This definitely isn't the case, but that's what she thinks. I'm sure I will have a breaking point someday where I just won't be able to take it anymore.

I'm not sure if sparking some jealousy in my wife might help her to get off the fence and stop thinking I will wait forever.

What if I tell our friends that I have a date or am dating someone? It will get passed on to her. Any ideas?

Thanks,
Svejk