I'll tell ya whats in the basket, for me there is no fake it until you make it. As soon as I lost interest, which she can see, she immediately started chasing. You always want something you can't have. If I extend a feeler it gets put down every time.
I don't know, I just woke up one day and realized I can't go around feeling sorry for myself, I'm not 8 and I don't need her. I want her, but I don't need her. There are so many gorgeous women out there that would be so happy to be married to a guy like me, and that I could treat well and enjoy life with. If my W doesn't want that opportunity, so be it, there will be others.
I guess I finally just put the LRT into play for real, no contact period. PERIOD, I don't answer, she leaves a VM and I text back. When she shows I'm not standing at the door with his stuff to rush em off, shows I'm hurt. I sit on the couch in the t-shirt watching ball, yell come in and let her round up the crap.
This is horrible and sexist, but women can not stand when a guy shows them indiffrence. They have to be either loved or hated and if they aren't in one of those categories, they will work to get there. I'm really indiffrent at this point, I haven't been upset over it in weeks, there are times I see her and I think damn that women is sexy, and others where I look at her and think idiot, I want no part of you, your family and anything it touches.
Heimlich, it's like this and I'm rambling. The OM makes them feel special, that brings guilt, well the guilt is smoothed over if we get angry with them, because then they have justification. Well why should you hang with their rope, let them hang themselves. Remove yourself from the sitch and they fall apart.
