1. If all I can ever accomplish on the DB boards is to help your husband find a job, recover his "manhood" and get him all hot and bothered for your crazy Southern ass, I'll do it.
2. Gordon MacDonald was the pastor of a huge Mega Church in Massachussetts. He has an affair with someone in his church for 2 years. Listen up --- 2 years. He was exposed. He resigned his position. Eventually he returend to ministry in another church. Then his old church voted to call him back. It happens all the time. They call this restoration. If ministers get restored, then an IT Operations manager can be restored. This is a no-brainer. Gordon even wrote a book about it. Rebuilding Your Broken World
3. Regarding his former employer. I think you and your husband need to write them a letter informing them of his repentance and your reonciliation. Your husband needs to stop walking around with his tail between his legs. And this former employer, needs to stop acting like your husband needs to be villified for eternity.
4. They are legally bound not to give anyone details of why he was terminated. If they do, they can be sued.
5. In a secular organization private matters don't affect your employability. He doesn't need to work for a church-based organization. I specialize in interview coaching. Have your husband contact me.
6. I hate to say this, but pull a "Clinton." During the 1992 Campaign, Bill's affairs became part of the public debate. In every situation, he and Hillary met the press together and stood as a unit. This is very disarming. In your case, your husband really repented and you are on the path to healing. I think your church, his former employer and whoever asks needs to know that. We all fall. It's those who get up who are to be cheered.
7. It sounds like your husband needs someone to give him permission to live his life with joy in the knowledge of grace. I will be his permission-giver.
8. The offer's still good. theoden.king@hotmail.com
