MrsNOP, Thanks ever so much for your thoughtful reply. I feel like I got a personalized autograph from someone famous! ha! You and NOP are my SSM/DB heroes. I do agree that H is somewhat in "wallow" mode, a/k/a The Pit of sorts that Chrome is talking about on his thread. Hard to see out of that.
But also, there is much reality to what he perceives/what is hurting him. He has always been a person who doesn't keep much contact with friends/coworkers past where he currently is. SO. All of his life connections were with the people at his job. Lost that, they quit calling, didn't reach out. Double hurt as he is alone. He even asked 2 specific people to be an accountability partner to him (post-firing, but still in A) to help him get out. They agreed, and NEVER CALLED HIM AGAIN. WTF is that? Ugh. That was a bad time. Let's add to the mix that he is an only child (as am I), so there is no 'backup' of family to be supportive and come alongside him there. He's just wounded, and while I want SO badly for him to 'buck up' and come out of it right now, thankyouverymuch, there are factors that don't help the cause. Plus it will be TWO years in December. Very hard to keep the faith for so long with no reinforcement.
I would love (LOVE, like you do not know) for H to email with NOP, but he is so gunshy it's scary. Every time he's raised his head up to look for some help, it gets lopped off by some bullsh*t comment or action by someone he's reached out to. He trusts no one to 'get it'. He's dying for someone to reach out to him, encourage him, and walk with him, especially someone who's had an A (which is not NOP, obviously) but they don't exactly raise their hands for the job.
CRAP, I'm late for work! Cobra and Gina, I'll get to your posts tonight (12 hour shifts, yawn). Thanks to all who posted, I knew the SSM board would be helpful.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
