So, on & on it went, with him saying he just didn't know what to do. Seems that there are 3 choices; A marriage between 2 people that love each other & the kids get the benefit of that. A D, where there is a friendly atmosphere & good co-parenting. Or, A D, where there is hostility & everyone suffers.
I said that if I understand him correctly, he's leaning towards #2, & that's Ok, he needs to make the best choices for himself.
H-"Don't box me in J, I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for hurting you & the kids with this. I can't just jump back in right now."
It's simply amazing to me how befuddled he becomes at being turned loose. So, perhaps the thing that is the hardest--the turning loose, the abdication of all control--is the real secret.
