I was referring to the growth from relationships and from the bad things that happen in them. You want to learn those lessons prior to your marriage and try and not have to once you make that lifelong commitment.
What I am saying J is maybe you learned these lessons from your marriage so that your next R will be a healthy one. That may be why you are feeling so detached is you are realizing that your marriage was not fulfilling and may have simply been you learning those final lessons.
