Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 4

[Heimlich]

Hmmmmmmm, never thought about it that way. To me, it's just been a continuation of our normal marital division of labor.

Might could be something there. Plus, over the last day or two, as having my own place becomes real, I'd prefer to go out and buy the rest of what I'm lacking myself. It's just been such a habit for the last 7 years or so that she does the bulk of the shopping that it's not something I consciously thought about until a few days ago. Had a short conversation about this a few minutes ago. Just mentioned that I'd rather she not get anything else, because I'm not sure of how much storage space I have and I don't want you to get too much and for me to have nowhere to put it.

Lemme ask you this: if she's doing this as an AOS and not in a mommying way, do I shoot myself in the foot by cutting her off from doing something nice for me? Again, this is basic house stuff (that we've already agreed to purchase out of joint money to start a separate household -- note, this is fair financially to me).

Beyond our girls room, I've already been clear that I'll do what I like with the apt. She also knows that if there's a disagreement on what to do with their room, I'll make the final decision (sad thing is, we agree on most everything. Generally always have). Though I did find myself asking her opinion about possible desk placement this morning. Happened as we were talking over coffee, kind of a natural conversation. Old habits are hard to break. "Hey, what do you think of this." Just happened to be about a new place I'm moving to.

Be independent. Be strong. Be direct. Be confidant. Be kind.

Yep, the old/new me. I think she's starting to see it and I think she's a little surprised, though I'm not sure about this, that I'm moving so quickly to move out.

As always, thanks.

Donna, wondered where you had got to. May be joining you over in separation in a week or three.

BD