once again ROOT you are so helpful. You are correct, I am just making assumptions. I did talk to him today and he said he had fun, although not everyone he invited showed up, but he didn't seem to disappointed. We had a nice time today at S10 soccer game, then he came back to the house and had breakfast. He was supposed to take the kids today but was feeling a bit hung over, so I let him go to his place and rest a bit, then he came back and the kids gave him their present (an 8x10 framed photo we just took on friday, he loved it). I gave him a funny card with no love, no nothing, and a CD to one of his favorite bands. We then sang happy birthday, had birthday cookie (well H and the kids) and he stayed at the house while I went to the gym because that is all I had planned for today with him taking the kids.
You are correct, that ultimately I want him to be happy, and dont want to keep him here if he is unhappy, but I am trying my best to show the 180 me, the person who can make him happy. So I know in the short term what he thinks will make him happy is what he is doing now, I know in the long term he will realize that being with his family is where true happiness is. But he needs to realize it, and I need to realize that just like I need to GAL for me, he is doing the same.
