BD--Just read your last thread (thanks for the link) and about being able to finally shut up. I myself kept giving lip service to shutting up, but I couldn't even do it when H left the house! It took a DB road trip, 2000+ miles and three vodkas to get it through my head.
I LOVE OT--I may be her #1 fan, as her 2x4s are one of the few things that can get through my thick skull and 21 years of history. If you want more advice vicariously, I am over in Separated (should have been Adultery, but there was only a week leeway in those two events).
As far as AOS / guilt: AOS is my H's LL. Also what he is rebelling from. Looking back, I got a Sirius radio for the car (Dec 06), a new car that he co-signed (Feb 07) and a new puppy (April 07), all as ways to ease his guilt. I don't think it helped him, but the stuff is nice ;0)
