Originally Posted By: Jeff223
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IF my W EVER really loved me, she would have openly discussed her feelings, gone to counseling and worked on the M. In the end, she only really loved herself.

It may be very similar in your case..........


WOW, I can relate to that. My former W dropped the bomb and walked away with that smug look and confident it was all my fault. Where was our love, her commitment?

But what does it matter their motives? If she lost her love or she just used me, if she blames me and not herself, if she loves only herself, so what? That is her problem, not mine. I cannot control that so why suffer.

I do believe that if I would have extracted my head from my anal cavity sooner it may have made a difference. But like you state so well, if we were used and they are that self centered it may not have made any difference at all.

And to sleep even better: if we were used and they are that self centered they did us a favor walking away.

Thanks for the post.


Jeff,

Her love and commitment was right there with my ex-W's..... My WAW went on to spew all sorts of sh!t.... She questioned if we were "really" married..... She said, "Who are you married to? The first person you have sex with?" She went on to pose a bunch of idiotic questions... The FUNNY thing is when they have to ACCEPT this from the next H. Can the next H just pull the same sh!t? Can he just walk away? I know they would be pissed off, hurt and complain about how "evil" men are... \:\) Their families would be up in arms instead a giggling about how "bad" exW was. It will be TOTALLY different when they are being defecated upon....

My exW said so many contradictory things.... She said it was long over.... She made her decision the early Summer... Yet, she said it would have been different if I had done things differently in September. WTF?

She will look back and see me for the man I really am - a loving, caring, smart, hard working, compassionate and flawed man with a heart of gold who loved her more than anything on this Earth. I was in a SERIOUS rut before. I am back to being myself finally!

The interesting thing is I have met over a dozen ladies since my D. They all have eventually in some form or another said, “You are the type of the guy most women want to be with. What is wrong with your ex-wife?” I just smile. A few ladies have said it is her loss and some lucky woman's gain... How do you like that?

RMG

Last edited by RMG; 08/26/07 07:52 PM.
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