Sara, I've done all that. I am confident that right now my W is not having an A. Really if that's what she wants then she wouldn't really go for the S. She also understands that if there is an A then there is no way in hell I would be amicable towards her. She wants us to be friends no matter what because of the children. I know right now she is being honest and genuine to me. I know the type of person she is so I don't have any doubt.
Events happening on those dates isn't because she planned them. They are coincidence due to circumstances. Both time they are due to me feeling miserable because of what's going on and pushed for information. The first time I read her email, IM logs and etc. The second time her cousin was visiting that week and she pretty much avoided me the entire week. She wanted to talk after my bday but I was feeling something is going on and pushed for it. But I am glad that at least after my heart felt apologies she is willing to think on it rather than getting a D. I suppose I just wasn't giving her the space she needs when I'm at home.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.