Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Today my wife called to ask if some mail she was waiting for had come in. She usually text messages stuff like that. She didn't want to talk long so we cut the call short. But there was really no reason for her to call... maybe that's a good sign. Even though it kills me when it's obvious that she still has no desire to even chit-chat with me, I managed to hang up without my usual stalling to try to keep her on the phone.

Prior to today we hadn't spoken for 4 days. I know she spent the weekend with the OM, and I think she feels guilty about it, because in the meantime she is telling me she needs space to figure things out.

She is going to some kind of therapy retreat over labor day weekend. I asked her what she hoped to accomplish there and she said to find her happiness. I don't think she is happy with the way she is living her life right now, and she nows she won't be happy with the OM because he is 15 years younger and just a fling.

I think she hopes that she will fall back in love with me, but right now she doesn't trust me because I've slipped in my DBing several times over the last few weeks, especially when I found out about the OM.

I have no idea where this therapy retreat is or what it's about but I sure hope she figures something out.

Is it normal for WAW who are seeing OM to be so cold towards their husbands while they are involved with OM?

Svejk