meghan, if you can, I would highly recommend checking into al-anon. it might help you understand more about your h's disease, as well as your own co-dependency.
h is not an alcoholic, but he could very well be heading down that road if he keeps going the way he is going. my father is a recovering alcoholic...has been sober for over 20 years now. Only just now really understanding what my mom went thru with him.
I carry the co-dependent flag high in my own relationships, but am slowly, thru therapy, learning how to do things differently. It is NOT easy. but recognizing your own issues in the relationship is probably a good start.
good luck!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
