Hi, I can identify with that wanting the feeling of "being in love" thing. Even when I told my mother (which was certainly not easy, but my hand was forced by my H), she told me that I wasn't in love with this OM....just wanted the feeling of being in love.
As I was told when I first came on board....it is like a drug...being in love with the "in-love" feelings and going back for more and more. Then I read the books I ordered from womensinfidelity.com and it really explained it....in fact, that book(s) is what made me decide to stop all contact with the OM. We loose the feeling with that person, so then we break it up and go find a new OP. Then when that "in-love" feeling wears off...we go find another. A vicious cycle is formed.....like a drug habit....and then we have really messed our soul up b/c we will never be satisfied with one man. That scared the mess out of me! So, I stopped immediately. I thought I might as well stay in this M with this H if the same thing was going to happen to me again in a few months....just with a different man.
I don't know if it is the same way with men......(you know...the hormones that we are blessed with causes us to go crazy, and all), but I think their MLC can certainly screw them up big time. Maybe they can go from OW to OW better than we can bed hop around.....I don't know, but in the end, I believe both genders are pretty miserable when that happens.
Anyway, just thought I would throw my 2 cents into the pot.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
