Lisa, Little by little, that part really does seem to be happening, as long as I let it be. Although I didn't see H today he called a couple times. His behavior is still odd, sometimes quite nice, as he always is to everybody - lacking in being genuine maybe but it's better than the blaming - and then other times he loses his temper - hangs up the phone, not on me anymore but on younger son, a 10 year old. It's like H is really the child. But as I let go, i.e. I don't take things personally, I'm conscious of what I say, I mean what I say, I think about what I want to say, I'm a little aloof, no extra information, H seems interested or at least curious. He tells me what's up w him, like where he's going, what's happening at work, as long as I don't ask any questions. I'm finally relaxed again. We talk about money and shared issues, kids, he metioned having dinner together. We'll see. Once again thanks. I just want H to apologize and let's move forward. You know. SS
