It's an extreme bullying tactic. Some people will do things for you and if you don't comply, they take it away. It's control. He has created the problem. The sooner you go dark and NEVER HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH HIM, the quicker he will see his mistake in how this was handled. If he wants a r with his son, he will have to figure out how to repair the damages. If he doesn't, the bastard has no place in the young boy's life.
My first ex, is seeing this now and is scrambling w/o any knowledge on how to repair the years of very little involvement in my children's lives. They attempted a r and he was controlling. He helped my S18 open a checking account. He closed it after a couple of weeks saying that S had become overdrawn and they were charging his acct. Son says no, this didn't happen. I believe S didn't pay him the attention he wanted and closed it to be an ass. Control. Any other person would have discussed it with S first. This is from a man who is at least a week late with meager child support causing me to overdraw, etc. We will open one for him at my bank next week.
Let him go. It hurts you and S more to dwell on his antics. Move forward as soon as you can and keep a PMA. Now, my kids and I try to find a little humour. We sometimes even feel sorry for him. But we move forward. Life gets better but WE have to make it happen. Why do any of us tolerate their abuse.
Mickey
Mickey, you have a much better way of putting things than I do! LOL
