While we were having the convo, the phone kept ringing. He started doing that laughing thing again, saying, "your other guy is prolly getting nervous that you're talking to your H."
As important as it is for us to the good groundwork about space, patience, etc etc, the trigger point almost always seems to be when the WA thinks someone else is moving in. Not even when we detach, but when we start disappearing for weekends and come back with big smiles - keep this up. Be kind, and patient, but continue to weave that mystery
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
H-"Don't box me in J, I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for hurting you & the kids with this. I can't just jump back in right now."
Yup, and there will be more of this, if he is true to the WAS form. There will almost certainly be some re-writing of history, so the less you say, the less he will have to 're-write'. Although he is not yet ready to look at the long term, he is right in that 'boxing in' anything would be unconstructive.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
He'll be back on Friday night to stay downstairs. I'll be going out, so he'll have lot's of space.
