I forgot to mention that there is a wild card in all this theory and thats the OM. Where he is at in her life right now I have no idea. She still sees him at work at least.
W called today and spent some time at home with D , I took S out for some fun and later we had dinner together ( I made it ) . Then D went with W to stay the night with her. W was quite subdued , seemed to enjoy her time here but certainly not herself, shes been like this for a couple of days now. I wonder whats getting her down but am not about to start guessing.