Oh about the dating thing... just be careful, I bet it'd be sooo easy to fall into a trap there and stop your personal growth, instead throwing that energy into a new R (even if you didn't mean to).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I think the trap would be more tempting if I didn't have kids--but I have no interest in involving anyone new into their lives, or my world here at home. I guess it would be more on-par with the meet-up groups; I don't want a full-blown R, and will be very up-front about that.
But I will be cognizant of the danger. With only the one R experience, it would be interesting to see what I can discover about myself, my wants and needs. I have never had any comparison. And it may help make me stronger to realize that the end of a R with H does not mean that I will never even have the chance at a R with anyone in the future, if that is what I decide that I want.
*** Oh, checked your MySpace page--the road racing looks very cool! I would love the adrenaline rush of it. And it was great to put a face to the name :0)
Donna - that sounds really good. As long as you're aware of it. I just know what traps I could easily fall into... try to point 'em out to others also.
Glad you liked the myspace page. I'm so sorry, I thought I'd sent you a pic before!! (and here I had one of you all this time to make the connection). If you're on myspace send me a "friend" thing, I'd love to add you.
The road racing is funny - it's cool but it's not the adrenaline rush I expected it would be. It IS a rush, but not as extreme as I thought. More than anything I feel very focused.. H said the same. Although I must admit my brain went into slow-motion when we spun out once (no video of that one), and when we watched his friend launch off the track.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I don't have a MySpace page yet, but may be getting something together soon (or some other photo-sharing site). I want to get some pics up of Me and the World According to Me, as well as the Orlando DB event. That was a turning point for me, I think.
I can get being IN a race much more than watching one of TV (H & CW like NASCAR, and I never got it--7 hours of a bunch of cars driving around in a circle).
Hey Donna - I just finished up that Amira Bellydance video that I mentioned on my thread. WOW, it is really good!! I'm not entirely sure I'll be able to walk tomorrow, but that's ok (and I'm sure it'd be fine for most, it's because of my jacked up knee that it's hurting me so much - rest of the body feels great!). I really recommend it for practice though. She shows you/demonstrates "how to do it wrong" which is really helpful - you can think you're doing it right and then see her do it wrong and go "ohhhh! now I get it.."
As for the cars... yes it's SO much better being IN the car. I get bored to death attempting to watch NASCAR (and so does H, actually.. he can last maybe 4 laps before he's done and ready to do something funner). I have a friend who's really into the circle track racing and she likes to watch it for technical tips, but if you're not a driver it just doesn't seem that exciting.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Oh... and I forgot, would love to see pics if you post them!
The San Diego trip (I went with several ladies from here and met up with a few more) was a big turning point for me, too. Just kinda shows you that yeah, life can go on.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hi Donna - Know that many of us will be with you in spirit at your hearing on Monday. I do hope that there will be someone there in person too. A few days ago, you had posted that it was not possible to make so many tears, and it struck a chord with me, as 3 years ago, I remember thinking the same
One thing that helped me deal with the weepy situations was to have scripts for possible scenarios. And for everything else I used to fall back to 'I need a bit more time to think about this'. Can you think about where H would come up with alternative offers, and if you had to respond on the spot, what that might be?
Just catching up with your thread , they move fast
I am seeing a new Donna in your posts , more confident its so good to see. I agree with OT ( as usual ) and just take time to find yourself and get your feet back on the ground properly. Do you have any Male aquaintances that you could do some platonic stuff with , lunch etc just to have some company. Its much safer with someone you know and where the ground rules are set in advance.
