If I were in your shoes and he'd have told MY friend about the affair, I'd have turned and looked at her and said "Well, since he brought it up, let's go get ourselves another drink and I'll tell you what to led up to me making that mistake". I'd have then looked at him, told him to enjoy himself and flipped him the bird over my shoulder as I walked away.
But he's the type that would have shown his ass so it's a good thing you're not me. You did okay as far as handling it goes but I'd say next time, DON'T EVEN GO OVER TO WHERE HE IS! Good grief, woman, why DO YOU INSIST ON GETTING SUCKED INTO THIS DRAMA?
I'll tell you what the PERFECT thing to have done would have been:
You should have left (making sure he never saw you), then went and picked up your daughter. 2 things would have happened.
1) His son would have called him and jacked up his night out (which you could have delighted in, right or not).
2) When he called you and asked you why you did it, you could have then told him exactly why. Which was that he was in a BAR on his weekend with his daughter, which caused you serious concern regarding her well being. Let him take your butt back to court if he wants visitation, and then let him know you'd be having the judge address child support, as well.
